No Conditions or Prerequisites: Just Acceptace

This is a post I wrote for Encourage Your Spouse. Be sure to click to read the rest of it.

Acceptance-in-MarriageThe sun comes up every morning. Babies cry when they’re hungry. It’s just the way God made things.

But when it comes to our relationships with our spouse – our willingness to accept things the way they are quickly disappears.

Consider these common spousal complaints:

  • Why do I feel like I have to ask for a hug to get one?
  • Why do I always have to bug my wife to put her laundry away?
  • Why can’t my husband put the toilet seat down when he’s done?
  • Why does it feel like I always have to beg to go out for dinner?
  • Why don’t I ever get a gift for my birthday?

If you’ve been married for even a short while, you’ll likely recognize that your spouse has certain traits that kind of irritate you. And yes, maybe those few irritants have reached a point of really annoying you.

You’ve tried. You’ve asked kindly, pleaded, demanded, and even threatened, “encouraging” your spouse to change. And maybe you saw a change for a short time, (because your spouse really has a good heart) before they reverted back to old habits.

What are you supposed to do?

Three choices

When an issue is so major that it needs to be addressed, you have three choices….

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A Look At Whole Foods’ New Ad Campaign: Values Matter

Whole Foods Market has launched its first national advertising campaign. The theme is “Values Matter.” Some suggest Whole Foods’ new ad campaign is designed to shed its “Whole Paycheck” reputation – the idea that prices are so high you need your whole paycheck to shop there. Others see this campaign as a way to bolster…

Encourage Your Spouse – Adding More Value To You

Change is good. This applies to both marriage and those who write about it. Lori and I want to add more value to you. So we’re combining forces. If you didn’t already know, Lori has been writing about marriage for many years now over at Encourage Your Spouse. Now we’ve decided to make it a…

Values Quotes – William Cowper on Variety

Welcome to Values Quotes. I’m Robert Ferguson. Today’s quote is from William Cowper, an English poet and writer of hymns from the 16th century. A well-known quote from Cowper is: “Variety’s the spice of life, that gives it all it’s flavor.” You likely know the shortened version: “Variety is the spice of life.” But both…

Do You Experience Healthy Teamwork?

This post was written for Leadership Couples. As Teamwork is an important value in marketing, leadership and marriage, I’ve included it here. Enjoy! Reading Patrick Lencioni’s book, The Advantage: Why Organizational Health Trumps Everything Else In Business, the following statement really caught my attention: “Some leaders of teams that don’t regularly succeed will insist that they…

10 Behaviors Expected From An Inspiring Culture

Many businesses claim to produce innovative products or creative solutions. But what’s it like to work there? Some companies are known as “sweatshops.” This is common term used in service-based businesses, such as law firms, accounting practices, and advertising agencies. They hire young, bright talent, eager to tackle the world’s biggest challenges. Then after a…

5 Ways to Build A Durable Marriage

I remember watching the Royal Wedding on TV in 1981. Prince Charles and Princes Diana were getting married. It looked like a match made in heaven. This beautiful couple would live happily ever after…. (or so I thought). Of course, today we know better. It was neither a happy marriage nor one that would last….

Innovation vs. Ingenuity as Core Values. Is there a difference?

Why do some companies embrace Innovation as a core value while others embrace Ingenuity?  Is there a difference? Let’s first consider the meaning of these two values. Innovation = introducing something new; invention; advanced or ahead of the times. Ingenuity = ability to solve difficult problems; the power of creative imagination. Innovation is more about…

Where Do You Start?

This is a reprint of a post from Leadership Couples, written by my wife, Lori. I’m posting this here because I feel it contains some awesome insights on how to lead forward from whatever spot you find yourself in right now  – in business, in ministry, and in marriage. Enjoy!     What if it’s way…

What Does Health Really Mean In ‘Health & Safety’?

A common value included in the list of many corporate values is ‘Health and Safety’. This is particularly prevalent at companies within the energy and oil & gas industries. But why is the value of Health combined with the value of Safety? In my research of Fortune 500 companies, I did not find one occurrence…

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