The Value of Passion in Marriage

The value of passion means an irrational but irresistible motive for a belief or action; a strong emotion.

Marriage Questions:

• Do you remember the first time you had that feeling of excitement or joy when thinking about your (now) spouse? What caused or created that?
• What’s the craziest idea you’ve ever had to show your spouse how much you love them? What’s stopping you from doing it?
• What would happen if the only words you spoke to your spouse for a whole day were words of encouragement?  Could you do it for one week? What about for a whole month?
• When was the last time you told your friends or co-workers how much you love your spouse, and why? When was the last time you told your spouse?
• What one thing will you do this week that will increase the passion in your marriage?
• If you had to pick just one example from your history together as THE main story of your marriage, what story would you tell?

 

A Few Ideas

Having difficulty coming up with creative ways to show passion for your spouse? Remember, to be irrational means to border on crazy. You have to go ALL out. It requires time and energy to prove you have passion.

Here are a few ideas to get you started:

• Select a memorable date that is relevant to only the two of you (e.g. when you got engaged, a special event you attended together, when you first discovered you were expecting a baby) and celebrate in a unique way. Tie balloons to every chair in the house. Make a wall-sized poster. Invite other married couples to join in the celebration. Take lots of pictures and post them on Facebook.
• Plan a progressive dinner – out.  Just the two of you. Make it an all-evening event. Visit one restaurant for appetizers. Another for the main course. And a third one for desserts (I recommend somewhere with chocolate fondue!).
• Wake your spouse up at 4:00 AM on a Saturday, or your day-off, (if you have kids, plan for someone to look after them) and just say, “we’re going for a ride”. Drive somewhere within a 2 hour radius that provides some privacy to watch the sun rise. If you live near the ocean, or a mountain, go there. Or find a quiet lake, or a secluded meadow. Bring some chairs, or a blanket to lie on the ground. Then share stories of what first attracted you to each other.

 

How can the value of passion help improve your marriage?

 

Today’s value was selected from the “Enthusiasm-Teamwork” category, based on the e-book Developing Your Differentiating Values.