10 Benefits of Perkiness in Marriage

In our western culture, the idea if being “perky” is not viewed positively very often. The stereotype is a young woman who is just too darn cheerful and happy.

Such a person is viewed as “over the top” and criticized for being too positive.

Yet, we also have the opposite examples. You’ve likely experienced someone who is a Debbie Downer – they just can’t help but bring down the mood of everyone around them.

Isn’t it strange that those who are overly negative are not criticized as much as those who are overly positive…

So which kind of person would you prefer to be with? A real downer or someone who is perky?

Consider perkiness as a differentiating value:

Perkiness = cheerfulness that bubbles to the surface; liveliness and lightheartedness.

Now consider this value in marriage.

10 Benefits of Perkiness in Marriage

What would your life be like if you could rely on your spouse to always be cheerful, lively and lighthearted?

• No matter how bad things get, you know your spouse would always find a way to see the positive and good things.
• You’d never be bored. Your spouse would always be ready with fun ideas of things you could do together.
• When life gets too serious, you could always rely on you spouse to provide the counterbalance of lightheartedness.
• When you take yourself too seriously, your spouse would help remind you that the world does not revolve around you (yet they still want to hang out with you).
• Your spouse would help ensure you get the most out of life.
• You’d have more friends (people naturally gravitate to those who are cheerful).
• Your personal brand would be enhanced (by association).
• Your marriage would be more fun.
• Your kids would likely be more fun.
• You’d have ‘permission’ to loosen up and have more fun (if someone complains, just blame it on your spouse for being so cheerful).

But what do you do if neither you nor your spouse is naturally perky?

Hang out with other couples who demonstrate the qualities of perkiness. In time, some of their cheerfulness, liveliness, and lightheartedness might just rub off.

 

Today’s value was selected from the “Fun-Recreation” category, based on the e-book Developing Your Differentiating Value.