5 Ways to Cultivate Clarity in Marriage
It’s obvious when a marriage is in trouble. There’s a lack of clarity.
While the one spouse is talking, the other clearly does not understand. There is a quizzical look or scrunched up face visibly stating: “what are you talking about?”
Maybe you’ve experienced a few of the following scenarios:
- “No, we’re not leaving yet. The show starts at 8, not 7, right?”
- “I already emptied the dishwasher. What more do you want?”
- “Why did you make “that” for dinner? You know I hate liver.”
- “What do you mean the car has no gas? I just filled it up the day before yesterday?”
- “You know I can’t do it now. I’ll do it later when I have time”
A healthy marriage includes healthy communication. That means communicating with clarity.
Cultivating Clarity in Marriage
As a differentiating value, Clarity means clearness; free from obscurity and easy to understand.
Here are 5 ways to cultivate clarity in marriage.
- Be focused. Remove all obscurity by focusing on one topic at a time.
- Keep it simple. Make it easy to understand by doing the hard work upfront of removing complexity, and communicating only the points that matter.
- Be open. Include both facts and feelings. Healthy communication includes both head and heart.
- Test it. If you were to describe something to a stranger, would they fully understand it?
- Be transparent. Have nothing to hide, and no hidden agenda.
How do you cultivate clarity in marriage?
Today’s value was selected from the “Fairness-Respect” category, based on the e-book Developing Your Differentiating Value.
