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Posted on Jun 5, 2014

7 Ways To Be Warmhearted Towards Your Spouse

Do you consider yourself to be a warmhearted person?

  • Maybe you are naturally polite to others.
  • Maybe you are friendly to strangers.
  • Maybe you are always nice to your friends.

But are you warmhearted?

As a differentiating value, Warmhearted means friendliness, kindness or affection; sympathetic and generous.

Think about it….

  • If you are generally friendly or kind to others, then you are warmhearted.
  • If you are naturally sympathetic, or are generous with your time, then you are warmhearted.

But just because you’re considered a warmhearted person doesn’t mean you are warmhearted towards your spouse.

Being warmhearted towards your spouse takes thought and effort – consistently. It’s like a muscle that’s strengthened over time by constant practice.

If this doesn’t come naturally to you, then learn from others. And experiment.

7 Ways to be Warmhearted Towards Your Spouse

  • 7-Ways-to-Be-Warmhearted-Towards-Your-SpouseWhenever you come home to your spouse, greet them with a big smile and say “Hi.” It’s both respectful and friendly.
  • At the beginning of the day, ask if there’s anything you can do for your spouse, either that day or in the next 2 days. Better yet, you likely already know what would be most appreciated by your spouse, so just do it.
  • When your spouse is carrying something heavy or their arms are full and could use a hand opening a door, jump up and say “let me get that for you.”
  • When your spouse is all dressed up and looking sharp, or you think they’re looking really good, let them know. Who better to hear this from than your spouse!
  • When you know that your spouse is struggling with something, put your hand gently on their shoulder or arm and give them a reaffirming smile.
  • When you sense your spouse is feeling down, offer to give them a hug, and let it last as long as they need it to.
  • Pick an evening or specific time where you say to you spouse, “What would you like to do for the next few hours? I’m all yours and whatever you want to do is fine by me.”

Isn’t it amazing how many of these you would do for a friend – or even a stranger? Yet, after just a short time of being married, it’s easy to skip over these simply yet powerful gestures.

So which one will you choose to practice today?

 

What are other ways you can be warmhearted towards your spouse?

 

Today’s value was selected from the “Appreciation-Kindness” category, based on the e-book Developing Your Differentiating Value.