Posted on Sep 11, 2014

How to Create an Abundant Marriage

Who doesn’t want “more” of all the good things in life? Everyone loves abundance.

The problem is that most people associate abundance with having lots of money or great financial wealth. But that’s just one form of abundance.

What about possessing an abundance of love, hope or passion? Abundance can be both tangible and intangible.

Unfortunately, many couples are living in marital poverty every day.

A husband who feels disrespected and empty.
A wife who feels unloved and alone.
A husband who feels unappreciated.
A wife who feels no one listens to her.
A husband or wife who has lost his or her passion for life.
A husband or wife who can’t forgive.

But there is always hope. Abundance is available for all who seek it.

Reframing Abundance

As a differentiating value, Abundance means an overflowing fullness; more than adequate quantity or supply. Note, there is no reference to money, wealth or anything tangible.

Abundance can mean:

Overflowing with love.
A great quantity of grace.
An endless supply of hope.

These are not factious concepts. Such abundance is very real and evident in the lives of many married couples.

If you want to build wealth, you study wealthy people. If you want to have abundance in marriage, then you study healthy marriages that are overflowing in fullness.

In other words, consider an investment strategy to create an abundant marriage.

An Investment Strategy for Abundance

Abundance in marriage multiples when it’s continually re-invested. If you don’t use it, you lose it.

The secret to an effective investment strategy is to use what you already possess. To create an abundant marriage, you might be surprised at the assets you already possess.

Here are 10 ways to invest the assets you already possess:

Smile – non-verbal is the most powerful attribute of all forms of communication.
Listen attentively – active listening can often provide immediate returns.
Openly admire and esteem your spouse – words of affirmation pay huge dividends.
Be courteous – saying “please” and “thank you” shouldn’t end after getting married.
Be supportive – show your spouse you support their ideas and their actions.
Be adaptive – prove you can be flexible, which opens new doors for growth.
Be thankful – appreciate your spouse for who they are.
Renew your commitment – there’s tremendous value in constantly renewing your vow.
Show your passion – you’ll be overflowing with enthusiasm and joy.
Forgive – you can never forgive enough (the Bible states 70 x 7).

If you feel these are too simple, consider the most powerful investment strategy quoted, “Buy low and sell high”. It’s not rocket science. But doing it consistently and continually takes dedication, diligence, and focus. It’s a conscious choice.

The same is true to have an abundant marriage.