The Value of Maturity in Marriage
The value of maturity means to gain experience or wisdom with age; full development.
Marriage Questions:
- Are you making the same mistakes with your spouse you did when you first met? Why?
- What’s the most important thing you have learned about your spouse over the past year?
- When your friends look at you and your spouse, what one thing would they highlight as your most positive trait?
- What’s your plan for strengthening the relationship with your spouse over the coming year?
- What are you going to do differently today than yesterday that will benefit your spouse? (Remember, it’s not about you!)
Motivated by Maturity in Marriage
Remember feeling motivated to pursue a relationship with the person who is now your spouse? Maybe you even felt ‘driven’ to make it work. Why? You blamed it on love. (Some call it blind love)
But then as time passes that same motivation decreases. For many couples, they get ‘comfortable’ with the routine of life. Go to work. Feed the kids. Do the laundry. Fall asleep watching TV.
With routine comes lack of growth. We just get older but stay the same.
However, when we’re learning, growing, failing, succeeding, exploring, hurting, helping, and praying, then we are maturing. One way to look at maturity is the sum of all our experiences, acquired skills, and knowledge gained through trial and error and observations.
Imagine the difference that could take place if you applied all this accumulated wisdom and experience to improve your marriage…
The secret to a fully developed marriage?
Continually apply the same motivation that brought you together in the first place. Be completely focused on your spouse, and what you can do to help them on their journey of maturity.
In other words, your maturity in marriage is dependent on the motivation of your spouse. You help them and they help you. Then together, you can help others.
How can the value of maturity help improve your marriage and the lives of others?
Today’s value was selected from the “Knowledge-Skillfulness” category, based on the e-book Developing Your Differentiating Values.
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That is a great question because the longer I’m married to my husband, the more mature our relationship has grown. We can finish each other’s sentences and we respect each other immensely. There is absolutely no one in this world I respect more and vice versa. Thanks for linking up, Robert, so I could visit your site and hear your thoughts.
Thank you for your perspective. It’s always nice to get a glimpse into a maturing marriage. Thank you for the opportunity to link up.